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A Broken Heart | Life Update | Coffee & Chat

Are you brokenhearted over being the only one in a different place in life? When all your friends have moved on to having children,Β moved to another state, moved to other groups of friends, orΒ raising a family. Even in a place later on in life where your friends are becoming grandparents or retiring and you are feeling left behind. I feel your pain…

Trying to find contentment and close friends willing to meet you where you are at is hard. No one ever prepares you for that. In high school, I assumed my best friends would still be that close to me as I grew up. As time passes, I have realized people change, which is still something that is hard for me to grasp. I genuinely love and cherish those friendships even though so much has changed since the beginning.

Whether it’s moving to another state or you’re simply in two different places in life:
friendships should grow and blend with your life.

When you are the one that is in a different place but those around you have moved on to the next step in life, it’s rough! Friends getting married, having children, full-time careers, moving to another state, becoming grandparents, full-time career, etc.

It’s the hardest transition ever and NO ONE talks about it.

It’s a time that leaves you questioning yourself as a person. It has left me feeling alone. A time of isolation. All of these feelings are so real when you are the one in this place. I am here right now and I want to encourage any woman that may be in the same place for one reason or another. It’s a time of transition, it won’t last forever.

This means that at times you may need to grieve the loss of an old friendship. Grieving allows your heart to be able to heal and come to terms with the changes. This doesn’t mean you have lost your friends, it just means your friendships are different now.

To any of my friends that are reading this that have babies or children, know that I love you and your kids! I love spending time with you and your kids! I will sit at your house holding a sleepy baby while we catch up. It’s not a burden but a PRIVELADGE as a friend. This goes for any stage of life and what that brings to a friendship. Activities and the amount of time spent together changes but the depth and connection doesn’t have to.

One thing that remains true for me is knowing that God has a purpose
for my life where I am at right now.Β 

That purpose isn’t to be in a state of depression over the losses or changes, it’s a purpose to grow and understand Him more. Some of these friendships have been put up on a pedestal of high priority in my life. When they are moved, I have more room for Him in my life where He needs to be.

Do you ever find yourself sacrificing time for your friendships
that you’re aren’t sacrificing for Him
?

Why it always takes me being broken hearted to be reminded of this, I do not know. All I know is that there is a reason why I am broken hearted and there is a reason why He will use this brokenness to shine through me.

If you are going through a time of brokenness, please connect with me.
I want to pray for all of you that are in this place alongside me.

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Did you know this about me? | Coffee & Chat

I haven’t shared a whole lot about me in certain areas of my life and I want to change that. Some of you know the sporty side of me and some of you know the fashion side of me. Here’s to learning more about each other!!! I play….



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SPORTS BRA c/o | TENNIS SKIRT c/o

Tennis!!!! I played all through high school and tried to keep playing it in college, noncompetitively of course. I live a couple blocks from my old high school courts and have started to pick the game up again.

This sport is one you can pick up pretty easily when you haven’t played in a while, you WON’T be where you left off but it’s easy to remember the fundamentals. With picking this back up, I have realized how much fun Jason and I can have. I have forgotten how to have fun with him throughout the crazy schedule. Both working full time and having opposite days off is HARD WORK!

Tasc Performance has an array of options for workout clothes, I love the soft texture of them and how they adapt with movement. You know, it’s not pleasant when your tennis skirt gets stuck in the most obtrusiveΒ places. This one stays where it should, thank goodness!!!





The basics of the game so you can enjoy it too:

Scoring:

  • In the court: The court is set up with alleys on each side, this is an out of bounds area or if the ball hits outside of the back line of the court. When playing doubles, the outside lines of the entire court are the boundaries. Confusing, I know!
  • Game: When you serve it’s called love all. The first point won is 15. When you serve you call out, Love 15 or 15 Love depending on if you won that point. The game points continue on with 30,40, Game. If both have 40 points, it’s a deuce. Keep playing until one person wins by two points ahead of the other.
  • Set: 3 Games in a set. The person that wins the set, has to win by 2.
  • Match: The one who wins 2 out of the 3 games is the match winner.

Serving:

  • Make it easy on yourself if you have never served before by dropping the ball on the ground and hitting it over the net, more or less an underhand serve. See HERE.
  • Overhead serving: see HERE.

Rally (BEGINNER):

  • Just get the ball over the net before it bounces twice!
  • Backhand or forehand, whichever way is easiest for you to receive the ball and send it across the net again. HERE are great tutorials on how to hit backhand and forehand!
At the end of the day, as long as you are having fun, that’s all that matters!

Because tennis makes me have the weirdest faces when I serve….
and I know my toe is over the line…it’s all for the pictures lol!

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Staycation in Salem, OR | Coffee & Chat

Staycation in a cute $10 blue stripe dress.

One of the key changes in Jason and mines marriage is that we go away for a night at least once every 3 months. This has been crucial for our growth as a couple and strengthening our relationship. We never did this in SoCal and we felt the effects.



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DRESS | HEELS | HANDBAG | EARRINGS | LIPS (Snob)

This month we stayed in Salem, OR because our schedule didn’t allow for travel. Staying in our own area made us actually stop and enjoy the city. It’s amazing what happens when you go out of your comfort zone to enjoy the places you never take the time to enjoy.

Weekend Itinerary:

HOTEL: We stayed at The Grand Hotel in downtown Salem. The price is pretty affordable for a hotel in a downtown location. The rooms are spacious and the beds are COMFY! They do have a pool, hot tub, and gym, but we didn’t spend any time here since it was a busy weekend.

DINNER: We had dinner at Bently’s Grill that is located in the Grand. It was AMAZING!!! Not having dairy means that I am having to adjust my taste buds. This dinner didn’t need anything creamy, it is that good! I ate the steak with mushrooms, sauteed veggies, and red potatoes. Jason had a fettuccini alfredo that he loved! When you stay at the Grand, they give you a coupon for Bentley’s Grill so it makes it much more affordable.

BREAKFAST (HOTEL): There is a full breakfast that is provided with your stay! I wasn’t sure what had dairy in it or not so Jason grabbed some fruit first thing in the morning as we got ready. We have eaten here before I couldn’t have dairy, and it was really good!

BREAKFAST: We set out to try places we haven’t had before and went to the Oregon Crepe Cafe and Bakery that sits across the street from the hotel. Let me tell you….GO HERE! They have a full vegan crepe batter that I could have all the way down to a dairy free chocolate sauce and whip cream. This was absolute heaven, Jason even ate it with me and he isn’t too interested in my dairy substitutes. Now that it’s beautiful outside, you can sit outside and not freeze like we did πŸ˜‰ but we got to eat with cute little ducks walking around our feet so it was ok!

Don’t forget to date your spouse. You won’t regret the time and monetary investment in your relationship. A staycation is a great option for a budget!