Are you brokenhearted over being the only one in a different place in life? When all your friends have moved on to having children, moved to another state, moved to other groups of friends, or raising a family. Even in a place later on in life where your friends are becoming grandparents or retiring and you are feeling left behind. I feel your pain…
Trying to find contentment and close friends willing to meet you where you are at is hard. No one ever prepares you for that. In high school, I assumed my best friends would still be that close to me as I grew up. As time passes, I have realized people change, which is still something that is hard for me to grasp. I genuinely love and cherish those friendships even though so much has changed since the beginning.
Whether it’s moving to another state or you’re simply in two different places in life:
friendships should grow and blend with your life.
When you are the one that is in a different place but those around you have moved on to the next step in life, it’s rough! Friends getting married, having children, full-time careers, moving to another state, becoming grandparents, full-time career, etc.
It’s the hardest transition ever and NO ONE talks about it.
It’s a time that leaves you questioning yourself as a person. It has left me feeling alone. A time of isolation. All of these feelings are so real when you are the one in this place. I am here right now and I want to encourage any woman that may be in the same place for one reason or another. It’s a time of transition, it won’t last forever.
This means that at times you may need to grieve the loss of an old friendship. Grieving allows your heart to be able to heal and come to terms with the changes. This doesn’t mean you have lost your friends, it just means your friendships are different now.
To any of my friends that are reading this that have babies or children, know that I love you and your kids! I love spending time with you and your kids! I will sit at your house holding a sleepy baby while we catch up. It’s not a burden but a PRIVELADGE as a friend. This goes for any stage of life and what that brings to a friendship. Activities and the amount of time spent together changes but the depth and connection doesn’t have to.
One thing that remains true for me is knowing that God has a purpose
for my life where I am at right now.
That purpose isn’t to be in a state of depression over the losses or changes, it’s a purpose to grow and understand Him more. Some of these friendships have been put up on a pedestal of high priority in my life. When they are moved, I have more room for Him in my life where He needs to be.
Do you ever find yourself sacrificing time for your friendships
that you’re aren’t sacrificing for Him?
Why it always takes me being broken hearted to be reminded of this, I do not know. All I know is that there is a reason why I am broken hearted and there is a reason why He will use this brokenness to shine through me.