Do you ever feel like you have to be “somebody” to be successful or to be seen as a person who is going somewhere in life? We have labeled the term of success by comparing uncomparable people and lives.
Constantly being bombarded by the status quo and what society deems as current is daunting, to say the least. Getting caught up in comparing my place in life to what society says I need to be doing at this point. Truth be told, I am nowhere near what society says I need to be but I am nowhere near where I think I should be either. Life throws curve balls and we have to be able to adjust to them. It hit me, though, why are we so critical of ourselves and each other?
In our world, why are we all trying to be the same person living the same style of life? In my job comparison comes at you like the wind. I’m constantly commenting on how successful one blogger is vs. me, how many more views or “likes” she is getting vs. me, how an outfit looks so much better on her vs. me. This is tearing myself down. Do you have the habit of comparison?
I will get caught up in this and won’t wake up to the fact of my destructive mindset until my husband Jason will bring me back down to solid ground. He reminds me that we all have different purposes and growth. Look for the positives and not the negatives. Bottom line, be true to YOU and only YOU. Especially in my line of work, people want to see the genuine you, the real you. There are too many people that are similar on the outside but never show their heart and what truly makes them stand apart.
This has resonated with me over the past couple weeks. I opened up about it on my IG stories, asking if I should stick to one style for a better flow or keep sharing all my styles that truly make up me. Let’s be honest, I have a multiple personality disorder when it comes to fashion. I love it all in one way or another!
The responses I received from you gals encouraged me to keep sharing it all. The thankfulness that came from you seeing my example and knowing that having multiple styles was ok. To stay true to me was so much better than trying to fit in or be like everyone else. From the bottom of my heart, I want to say thank you. Your messages brought tears to my eyes in a time of uncertainty and brought clarity.
I love polka dots but I also love camo. Stripes give me joy but so do florals. I am obsessed with pink but love green and blue. Red is my jam in the Winter and brightens up the Holidays. I love working out but I also love twirling in frilly dresses. Hiking makes me smile and I even don’t mind a little dirt. I love wearing bold makeup but am also perfectly happy with a simple lip gloss and mascara day.
All of this to say, is that when you struggle thinking you need to be a certain person or have a certain job to be deemed as successful, stop. Be true to who you are and not like anyone else. Success isn’t measured on the things we can see or count. We measure success in our heart and soul. Where is our heart when we are measuring our success?
One of the biggest ways I have started to challenge myself when I struggle with feeling unsuccessful or focusing on where I “should” be in my life, I seek the Lord to calm my spirit and lift me up knowing that I am doing His work and that is where my success lies. If you are doing His work and you’re not living up to societies standards, you are doing an amazing job! What we are using to measure our success will prove to expose the truth which is often the opposite of what we think. Are you measuring with the world as your ruler or the Lord?